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Relationship Help | Recognizing and Understanding Your Emotions

Understanding Why God Gave us Feelings by Nancy Nair

Why is it important for each of us to understand feelings I ask? I think that if we really knew how things hurt us, and what feeling it was that went on inside of us, we would be better prepared to help others when they are hurting. If we don’t get to know those feelings and what each of those feelings represent in each situation how can we help each other. 

God did not just make women emotional and men emotionless, that is not how God works. God wants each of us to be able to talk to Him from the bottom of our hearts.  What does that mean I wonder? It means to me that I have a wonderful relationship with God, talking spirit to spirit with Him. So I need to understand why I feel a certain way so that nothing is between me and God. If I try to hide my feeling from God there will be an emptiness that will keep me from talking to Him like Adam did when he was in the garden with God; remember when God was walking with Adam in the garden? I am sure that they were really enjoying each other. Sometimes, when I am really in a very thoughtful time, I can have a wonderful time just letting God know what is on my heart. It makes me feel very satisfied within my spirit. I feel that God and I are walking along together (maybe not in the garden, but in my home). I can even imagine when God and Adam would be talking and Adam would say something that made God smile that each of them must have felt happy (that is a feeling). That is how I feel when I have a meaningful time with Him. God wants that from each of us today. So as I go thru my day and all the things that happen in that day, I want to look at each feeling that I experienced so that I can grow closer and closer to God.

To be able to be the best helpmeet, we must also learn why we have different feelings and put a purpose to them so that when he asks us what is wrong we can say what we are feeling. Everyone in the world each day experiences a different feeling and we want to be able to express them; therefore, when our husbands or our children say that they are going thru something we can say “I know I have felt like that also”. We will also be able to communicate to make that person feel welcome. That is what being a helpmeet is to our husbands trying to help them get those feelings back so they can walk and talk to God again because until they are communicating with God they are doing it on their own. 

We have a dictionary that has every feeling word in it. I think that as a project that each of us could go to the dictionary and add I feel in front of a word. If it is a feeling word it will explain what each of those feeling mean. Once we see that we than can ask ourselves a question. Have I ever felt like that or have I ever made someone else feel that way. That is the beginning of enjoying life when we start understanding our feelings.

God is so wonderful that He would not let us lose that ability to feel so that we can help our husbands return to Him.