It is the inner person, the human spirit, who experiences dissatisfaction, disillusionment and becomes defeated. In relationships, when the human spirit experiences those negative emotions, it will seek relief. If a person does not understand his or her own spirit (or the spirit of another), they will not yet truly recognize the full extent of their dilemma. They will not know to examine their situation as a problem within their own spirit. When a person does not understand that their relationship struggles are a matter involving their spirit, their natural tendency will be to use their physical frame of reference to mentally solve their problems.
Looking for spiritual solutions, based on a physical frame of reference, will not do much more than consume hundred of hours. Looking for answers to “spiritual level” problems at the “physical/mental level” will only guarantee one thing, more frustration. Using human reasoning as a primary source for finding spiritual solutions will always result ultimately in greater frustration, dissatisfaction, defeat and disillusionment in the spirit.